I have put this post off for a while because I didn’t know what to write. Well, I knew what to write it just isn’t very positive.. I am talking about my Buddhism and meditation journey. It has stagnated. I have lost motivation and confidence in myself.
Meditation started off well, I was using my Mindful app just before I went to sleep. It was helping me unwind before going to bed. I have always been a bad sleeper so anything that can switch my brain off is a good thing. But every night turned into every second or third night then when I could be bothered to not at all. I am too tired at the end of the day to be bothered and motivation is something I have always struggled with.
If I was to meditate in the morning it would mean getting up before the 2 rugrats, which at the moment would mean about 5am. I have no problems waking up, hopping straight out of bed and getting on with the job. But when it’s something I don’t really have to do, like meditating… Then I choose to sleep till the kids get me up. Because I’m too tired, too much on my plate, have the dog to walk (which doesn’t get done often enough), yada, yada, yada. Getting up at 5am when I normally don’t get to bed till between 9.30 and 10.30, sometimes later, it seems unfair! This is all negative self talk that I always do and why motivation has always been so hard for me.
My brain is my worst enemy most of the time and it tells me that I am scared of change and if I step out of my comfort zone then people will judge me or talk harshly about me. I have made the big step of booking into meditation classes and mindfulness classes at Buddhist temples only to chicken out an hour or two before I am meant to go. I keep thinking that people are going to laugh at me or think I’m stupid because I don’t know what I’m doing or supposed to do. Stepping out of that comfort zone is stopping me from reaching my goals!
I am a walking contradiction because generally I could not care less what people think of me, but when it comes to something that is really important to me then my mind has a bad habit of making me care. Maybe because it is so important to me?! A paradoxical predicament!
So I have come up with some tips to help me with motivation and help you too if you are struggling with staying focused on your goals. They are not difficult to practise or remember because let’s face it if they were difficult then they wouldn’t help me.. I am that damn unmotivated!! These tips are nothing new, you have probably seen them around the place, but these are the tips that have helped me (motivating the unmotivational!). And I have modified them to suit my needs, which is easy to do and remember.
Tips to Stay Motivated!
- You have goal?! That’s great, I bet it’s a good one. But I bet it seems really big and unachievable right?! Maybe.. NO!! It’s not. Instead of focusing on your main goal, try breaking it down into smaller, more achievable goals. Baby steps!
- Reward yourself. Once you have reached a mini-goal, then go buy yourself a new car or a trip around the world.. HA. I wish. Seriously, do something nice for yourself (something that won’t un-do all your hard work of course!) it will make getting to the next mini-goal something to look forward to.
- Have someone to be accountable to. And make sure you tell that person to hound you like the lazy shmuck you are!
- Don’t let a missed day or two make you throw your hands in the air in failure. You haven’t failed! Your goal is still there. Don’t worry about what the missed day or five has done just get back on track.
- Lastly, stop that damn negative self talk. “I can’t be bothered”, “I’m too tired”, “It’s too hard”. Start becoming more aware of your thoughts and when you feel yourself falling back into that negative mindset.. Stop yourself. Think positive and stay positive! “I really can’t be bothered, but think of the positive effects it will have on my day/life/whatever”, “I’m tired but I will be one step closer to my goal if I do this” ” I can do this!”.
That last tip is the most important. Number 5. It’s a doosy.. Your brain is your biggest motivator and unmotivator. Conquer your defeatist attitude and you can do anything. It takes hard work to train your brain to stop those negative thoughts from creeping in. But you can beat them by taking note of when they start and just stopping them in their tracks. Do whatever you need to do to turn them into positive thoughts. An affirmation. A mantra. Whatever works.
What are your tips for staying motivated?
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