I am the first to admit that I have an issue with anger. I have a bad temper and no patience. A combination that can get me into trouble. Since having children my temper has been the bane of my existence. Instead of calmly talking through a situation with my toddler who is in full tantrum mode, I usually let my anger get the better of me and raise my voice. And that will, without a doubt, make the situation 10 times worse. I have known for some time that I need a solution to deal with my anger and I found it on My Grateful Life‘s wonderful blog.
The How to Diffuse Anger Mindfully post has been my reference point when I have felt my emotions get out of control.
So how do you diffuse your anger mindfully?
With a lot of practice for starters!! It is going to take me a long time to master the steps but I have written them out and placed them around the house. On the fridge, on my bedside table, in the bathroom, until I start remembering them on my own.
What are the steps? 1. Become the observer of yourself. 2. Feel the sensations in your body. 3. Embrace the anger. 4. Take deep breaths. 5. Reflect.
If you want to learn how to use these steps please go to the My Grateful Life website as they explain it a lot better than what I could. As I said I am still learning and this has been a fantastic tool to help diffuse my anger quicker than anything I have tried before.